Why do I ask?
Because when I'm determining if a new client believes they have any influence over things that happen to them in their lives, I ask them, 'Do the cold, dark winter months make you feel down and depressed?' I want to establish if they link their emotion to forces outside their control, and to explore the idea that they can take that power back.
I had a client once who was going to move his entire business to France because he linked miserable weather in Suffolk to his state of mind. He'd determined that his negative experience was down to location and that in Provence, he'd be blissfully happy. However, in the course of our conversation, I asked, 'Do you ever feel miserable in France?' Of course, the answer was 'Yes' because the choice to feel that way was his, and the weather had nothing to do with it. The result? Once he'd understood he had the power to choose his emotions, he decided not to move his life across the Channel.
Taking my own advice...
With that in mind, I've recently spent many hours training for a walking marathon by doing long, wet walks in the rain. Of course, it was a physical challenge, and the rain makes things a bit more difficult, but I'd approached it with positivity, focussing on the health benefits and how I was getting closer to my goal. Instead of finding it hard to march along in a downpour, I've come to quite enjoy it - and I know that I'm in control of my emotional experience, as well as the physical one.
What are you doing this week that you can approach in the same way? I'd love to hear about it, so feel free to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.or drop a post about it on my Facebook page.
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