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What is Areophobia?....(The fear of flying) 

Areophobia or the fear of flying is the excessive worry about air travel.It is believed that one in ten of the population have a fear of flying but the figure  may be higher. This phobia can be linked with anything to do with flying, from planes to helicopters to airports. It also can be linked with psychological aspects such as panic attacks, claustrophobia or post traumatic stress disorder. Our fear of flying can increase our anxiety levels to such an extent that many people who have this fear will avoid flying all together.

What do people fear most?

When talking to my clients about their fear of flying many will say that its their fear of being out of control of their emotions on the plane that is really difficult for them to deal with. They worry that they may have a panic attack or loose control of their bodily functions or become hysterical. Others may be more frightened about external factors such turbulence, faults on the plane, bad weather or the skills of the pilot that they worry about the most. Its the feeling of extreme embarrassed and the worry about what others may think of them they find most difficult to deal with.

Who is it for?

You may be one of those people who,in the past, found flying really easy but now its not the case and you're worrying because you don't understand why you have been getting progressively more anxious. You may have experienced a sense of extreme anxiety that appeared “out of the blue" at one time and you're worrying that it will happen again. You may have been on a flight that was very difficult and frightening and now you're extremely worried that it will happen again next time they fly.

Take control and overcome our fear.

Regardless of what has happened to you in the past, working together with me you will learn how to understand and take control of all your unhelpful thinking.You will learn how to completely change your negative feelings and your unhelpful emotions about flying and you will learn to thrive in the process!

Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)

Irritable Bowel Syndrome resolved quickly and easily - in Ely, Newmarket and Cambridge - using the Thrive Programme, and Hypnosis hypnotherapy the Thrive way 

Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is thought to affect as many as one in five of the population at any one time.  Its symptoms can vary from person to person, but typically one or more of the following symptoms may be experienced:

  • Constipation
  • Diarrhoea
  • Bloating (that may subside overnight, only to return the next day, and may occur after eating a meal)
  • Flatulence
  • Abdominal pain or cramps
    • may, or may not, be reduced by passing a stool
    • may be specific to the lower right side or tucked up under the right ribs
    • tucked up under left ribs, or if the pain is particularly bad it may move into the left armpit
    • in women, left sided abdominal pain during sex
    • or more generalised pain or cramping
  • Painful swallowing
  • Noisy gurgling stomach (may be loud enough to cause social embarrassment)
  • Variable, erratic and unpredictable bowel habits
  • Severe short stabbing pains in the rectum
  • Passing urine more often
  • Fatigue
  • Loss of appetite
  • Nausea
  • Depressive symptoms
  • Anxiety and stress-related symptoms, which may interact with the gut symptoms

IBS is a condition that is often hidden by the person experiencing its symptoms.  The media is certainly trying to move us towards a point where we are more comfortable talking about bloating, stomach cramps, constipation or diarrhoea, however, if you suffer from the condition, you will know how difficult it can be to talk about what can be very embarrassing symptoms.  For example, how do you tell the person interviewing you that you are suffering with severe flatulence?  How do you explain to the coach driver that you need to stop for the toilet (again, having only been 5 minutes previously)?  How do you leave in the middle the funeral to find a toilet?  Or how do you tell your new partner that you dare not go on a trip in case you have a bout of IBS?

If you are someone who suffers with IBS, you will also know only too well that the symptoms can seriously affect and limit your ability to enjoy life to the full.  It is the severity and frequency of symptoms that can be most troublesome and intrusive for sufferers and it is a condition that can be notoriously difficult to treat successfully. 

Despite this, there are many cures and treatments recommended by the ‘experts’ and these include a large number of medications and herbal treatments (e.g. for diarrhoea, constipation, cramps and flatulence or bloating); dietary changes and restrictions; exercises – different types of exercise seem to be in vogue at different times (e.g. yoga is currently experiencing an elevated status as the exercise ‘cure’); and lifestyle changes or restrictions. 

However, the disappointing reality for IBS sufferers is that of the many treatments listed above, which are variable and often disappointing in their treatment outcomes, all aim to treat the symptoms, rather than removing or resolving the root cause of the IBS.  This will mean that the person will always likely to have a susceptibility to IBS, the symptoms of which could be moderated with treatments, but that may always return.

How the Thrive Programme Can Help the people of Newmarket, Bury St Edmunds and Cambridge

The Thrive programme which usually takes between six and seven sessions would help you to fully resolve all your emotional issues,  leaving you free to lead a life without symptoms in future.  It will also provide you with a greater sense of self; it will boost self-confidence and self-esteem; it will help you build on your self-belief and you will find yourself being calm, self-assured and confident in situations where previously you may have experienced your most severe symptoms. 

Both here in Ely and Bury St Edmunds we will place you at ease so that you feel comfortable and free to talk about your stress related symptoms in a safe and friendly environment.  We understand how difficult it can be to talk about IBS and to seek help, but if you would like to rid yourself of IBS and resolve any related emotional issues forever, we are confident that we can help you. 

Here in Ely and in Bury St Edmunds we have substantial experience of helping people to rid themselves of problematic IBS and related symptoms using The Thrive Programme and find that symptoms usually disappear within 7 sessions.

N.B.  Before engaging in any programme, it is advisable to seek medical advice to ensure all other possible causes of your symptoms have been ruled out.

Success Stories

The Thrive Programme; for a Life Changing Experience. Success can be yours for the taking!  

Read how other people have changed their lives by studying the Thrive Programme. 

"I have to do things absolutly perfectly. Half measures just won't do".

Cecilia had a very sucessful career in a male dominant profession in the city where eventually she burnt out. Quite understandable her "get up and go" attitude that she had developed previously held her in good stead and eventually she set up her own business. Cecilia came to see me because although she was working really hard, her business wasnt a profitable as she needed. She found that she was doing lots for other people and would feel dreadful if her customers were, for what ever reason, unhappy with her work. Her self esteem was non existent. If this is you then This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. me now for your free initial consultation. 

Cecilia recently wrote:

Today I was asked if I could play netball tonight for a team tha's one short. You helped me change "id love to but I can't tonight" to "Yes please, where do I sign". This is just one of a long line of "Yes Please's" or I Can do's that make up my dialy positives. Life is a constant stream of challenges that I rush head-long into with great gusto. I really am me again now and I rather like that. Cecilia H Cambridgeshire.

My writers block is getting in the way of my ability to run my business successfully

As Kate explaines she came to see me for help with her "writers block" Once Kate realised that she was in fact creating her own limiting belief and subsequent anxieties she was able to effectively change her mindset. To chat about your phobia or fear This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. me now and book your free initital consultation.

Kate Kelly, Woolpit

Working through The Thrive Programme helped me with my loss.

I met the Lorraine several years ago. She and her husband had a thriving business but sadly he died and she found running the business on her own extrememly difficult but the worst thing for her was the fact that she really scared of bing on her own and was frightened of her future. If you have suffered loss or bereavement and are finding it difficult to look to the future please This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. me now for your free initial consultation.

Lorraine wrote:

Thank you for being there and listening. With your help and guidance and The Thrive Programme everything now makes sense. I am choosing to get on with my life and thoroughly enjoying it. My spectacles are clear. I know how to approach things now. As I take more control of my own life – the book is a continual source of reference and all becomes clearer by the day as I begin to understand my self well and manage my unhelpful thought patterns. Brilliant; being on my own is no longer scared of being on my own. Lorraine M Suffolk

If you have suffered bereavement and feel frightened about what your future holds in store for you then please give call me now on 07747186670 to arrange a free initial consultation. Like Lorraine you too can enjoy a brighter future.  

I'm no good at anything, no one wants to be my friend and school just sucks!

Lucy and her Mum came to see me after being recommended by a friend. Lucy had recently moved from a small primary school into a very large secondary school and was finding the transition very difficult to deal with. She became emotionally volatile and verbally aggressive and her Mum was getting very distressed, not really knowing how to help. They came together for the sessions and we worked through the Thrive for Teenagers Programme . Please This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. if you would like more information or to book your free initial consultation.

Lucy's Mum wrote:

"We are so glad we took the plunge and came to see you. Both Lucy and myself have learnt a lot: how to turn things around by being able to view life in a clearer way.  It is very apparent to us that with certain things or situations, Lucy is thinking them through and making an effort to try, where before she would just blank them out or write them off, and let herself believe that she's not good/nice enough to warrant a chance.  This means she is engaging much more with each of us, she is employing the techniques you have taught her and is generally much happier.  I would describe it as being set free from her thought prison. Lucy was rather sad leaving the last session.  She didn't want them to end. I had never seen her talking like that to anyone.  It has always been monosyllabic answers before. So it must have been a big release for her. We will be eternally grateful to you for helping Lucy to redirect her life (not forgetting how this has had a positive effect on our worry levels too). I would recommend you to anyone caught out by the stresses of life and hope to that we will see you around... Gill W Cambridge

"I was skeptical but how wrong was I"

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Kate is calm, professional, warm and friendly and I always feel very comfortable talking things through with her. She has a real gift with people and her intuition and knowledge about my fears and worries, made the whole process extremely easy and very successful. I am so grateful for the help she has given me; I will definitely be using her in the future and recommending her to my family and friends."

"I first saw Kate for help with my fear of public speaking and the stress it was causing me. I have to admit that although going into sessions with an open mind, I did have my doubts that anything could help me when I felt almost paralysed with fear. The results I had with Kate however were astonishing and over the course of a few weeks, I couldn’t believe that not only was I able to deliver presentations to large numbers, I actually started to enjoy it! Kate also helped greatly with my irrational fear of spiders as well as a difficult time for me leading up to an operation. Looking back now, I honestly feel like a different person and as if Kate has unlocked, and helped me to let go of, things that were holding me back in all areas of my life."

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"I had woken up in the middle of the night sweating and feeling like I was going to be very ill (I thought food poisoning from the symptoms) and I got myself into a bit of a state. Then all of a sudden your voice just kicked in, I imagined you were there talking me through the relaxation and I did all of the things I do with you and went from feeling like I was going to be violently sick and ill to calming myself right down and managing to go back to sleep! My husband couldn't believe it. I didn't even consciously do it, it just kicked in. I'm so grateful!"

Angela, Bury St Edmunds

My shyness  and anxieties were getting in the way of my  job prospects and career development 

Paul was very clear about the help he wanted. He knew he was shy but he had a young family and he needed a better job. He knew he was technically skilled but he couldn’t manage his emotions well at all and would feel victimised, socially inadequate or anxious. I guided and coached Paul as he worked through the seven sessions of the Thrive Pogramme.

Paul wrote:

I had a telephone interview for a job earlier in the week and received the following feedback, which I will certainly be reminding myself of in the coming weeks. I definitely feel the programme helped me focus on the positive side of my abilities in this interview, an area I hadn't been great at in the past. "Your feedback was positive, you came across as commercial, focused on outcomes, technically strong and actually got to the heart of some of the challenges and opportunities. Paul W

I just couldn't sustain any of my business development. It all felt so out of my control".

I’m no longer a people pleaser - I have confidence in my own decisions and I am proud of my business,” says Sue, the owner of a marketing company. “I have learned to sustain my business growth that in the past would have faltered because of how I was feeling.” Sue H. Network Marketer  

My business took a real hit last year and I wasn't coping" 

“From the very first conversation it stopped the slide and gave me some hope,” he shares. “I was very down but this helped my self-esteem and I use some techniques with people I work with, which has been powerful. The processes of control were insightful; I still use aspects of it quite a bit. When I do get quite stressed or overwhelmed, it is so helpful going back over the books and rereading processes and reinforcing what I have been taught. Allan S. Editor 

Although I’m a coach I coudn’t seem to help myself"

“The course was definitely worth the money, it stopped my slide (into depression) and put me on a better trajectory. I continued sessions but soon I was on a better direction. We even used Skype, when I had sessions I would take a day off work to travel from London because they were so valuable to me.” Brian. Business Coach for seior execuatives in blue chip companies. 

"I knew I was stopping our business grow"

"I’ve been working with Kate on the Thrive Programme for the last few weeks. Thrive is a skills-based course developed by Rob Kelly and delivered by various consultants over a period of six or seven weeks. It’s simple to understand and the basic techniques are easy to implement and maintain. 

Kate is at all times patient, professional, focused and encouraging. Where necessary, Kate challenges you to consider the effect that any inherent unhelpful thinking styles have on your business, and then shows you how to bring about change. The process has been invaluable for us as a small family business, and I can say without hesitation that any further employees taken on by our business will be offered the opportunity to see Kate and take part in the Programme. Throw away the business self-help books as you will no longer need them – just do the Thrive Programme! " Rachael W. Attorney 

 I now have confidence in my abilities. 

Taking the Thrive programme with Kate Patterson has given me confidence in my own ability. As far as my professional life is concerned it has made me more relaxed and able to more easily cope with the rigours of workload and previous stressful situations. When talking with prospective customers my relaxed and confident state give them confidence in my ability to help them and has increased my customer base which is marvellous and I can’t thank Kate enough for helping me realise and remember my own strengths and all the good things I do whilst putting my negative weaknesses into perspective where they belong. Anon 

Lacking self-esteem and having little social confidence

I decided to work through the Thrive Program with Kate, and a great decision it turned out to be, having now finished the program I feel as though I have hit a new level, taking real control of my life and everything that is happening within it. Understanding myself and the way I think, keeping positive, using what I’ve learnt on a daily basis. The valuable time I spent with Kate was a bit of a rollercoaster, and I say valuable time because it really is, it’s not just an hour long session every week for 7 weeks to get yourself through a program it’s a lot more. Initially I didn’t really think the course would make much difference to me and I wasn’t committed, however that mind set didn’t last long. My attitude towards myself has changed and I am now working on being an outgoing positive person, this is the help that I needed to best push myself in many aspects of my life. MT Bury ST Edmunds

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The Thrive Programme - Positive Psychology in Cambridge and Suffolk Welcome..

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The Thrive Programme - High quality unique psychological training and coaching in Ely, Cambridge, Woolpit, Bury St Edmunds Suffolk and Cambridgeshire. 

So What it Thriving?:

"Thriving is about flourishing in life, regardless of where you are  or what you're doing, what your past experiences were like, what youre relationships are like, how much money you have, or what skills ou have. It's about fine tuning your mind and body to get the very best from them" Rob Kelly

Then I can help you achieve the life you want. 

I can help you... My name is Kate Patterson, and I have been helping people all my professional career to gain the skills and develop the resources they need to be happy and successful people in their own right. Initially as a teacher and now as a Licensed Thrive Programme Consultant and Thrive Programme Consultant Mentor I show people how to feel really good about themselves. They learn how to manage their emotions and their thinking patterns well and develop the skills they need to thrive and flourish. They will learn to be resilient and to be able to bounce back quickly from life's ups and downs so that they can really enjoy their lives. I really do know what it feels like to feel powerless because of the difficult circumstances I have faced in my life. If I had known then what I know now about the Thrive Programme I would have had the resilience needed all those years ago to be able to bounce back quickly. I have found the Thrive Programme transformational.

 The Thrive Programmeis a unique psycho- educational training programme based on positive psychology to help you to live the life you really want and to be happy, resilient and able to cope with lifes ups and downs and not to be held back by your anxiety, your depression or your stress.

What is Thriving?

Ilona Boniwell writes “positive emotions broaden our attention and thinking which in turn means that we have more positive thoughts and a greater variety of them”. What she is implying is that when we experience things like happiness, pleasure or joy, or that we are interested or curious in the world around us we are far more likely to be creative and open minded. Thriving is not languishing in the realms of OK. Thriving is moving forward and has no end point. The world really is your oyster.  This is what thriving looks like. I know what I would prefer, what about you? 

Thriving is having the skills and resources to be able to bounce back quickly from any problems, illnesses or other issues in life, overcoming obstacles and living the life you want quickly and easily. We all can face difficulties in our lives, some of our own making and some that we have no control over at all and the sense of powerlessness can be overwhelming.   I am going to show you how to build your own strong psychological foundations so that you make the changes in your life and be the person you want to be.  The Thrive Programme will teach you not only awareness and self-insight but also skills that you need in order to thrive. It's an exciting prospect don't you think! Problems Helped

As a professional supervised and Licensed Thrive Consultant and coach, I can help you to overcome many of the problems and symptoms that might be holding you back, or stopping you from leading a happy and fulfilled life. I can facilitate your change. It might be that you are quite compulsive and you may simply want to stop smoking easily - without the hassle of withdrawal. You may need to resolve some social anxiety that makes you feel lacking in confidence or unable to engage with people... either way, your problem will be helped in a professional, caring and non-judgmental way - with a view to resolving your symptom(s) as quickly and ethically as possible.

 You can find a list of symptoms resolved with the Thrive Programme by following this link

The Thrive Programme takes between 6-8 sessions. Those who choose The Thrive Programme are achieving amazing results. They are thriving and totally resolved their anxiety, depression and stress, their IBS, fears and phobias, their weight issues, anger problems, sexual problems, obsessions, their addictions, bad habits and much more.......

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If you really would like to make some changes in your life, then just pick up the phone, and call or text Kate NOW...
on 07747 186670

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Thrive Programme for Children and Teenagers

The pressures that children can face these days are considerable. These may be social and peer pressures – from social media for example; pressures from parents, schools and teachers especially at exam times, pressures from siblings and most significantly, pressures from them selves. They may have been bullied, or refusing to go to school. Unfortunately too, they may have experienced some form of abuse or trauma.

All of this can leave them feeling despondent, lethargic unusually quite or feeling ill, down right miserable or aggressive, completely unruly or difficult to engage.

The Thrive programme brings together scientific research and years of clinical experience to provide a 5 week course of guided learning specifically designed for younger people.

Based on the Thrive Programme principles within the main Thrive book the course is simplified and made easily accessible for younger people.

How it works

The parent/s and child/young-person will be invited to come for an initial consultation. This is an opportunity for everyone to meet and explain about their positive and not so positive aspects of their lives and the Thrive programme for Teenagers will be explained.

My role as the Licensed Thrive Consultant is to bring the programme alive for the young person so that they can gain the maximum from the programme.

If the young person would like to work with and are supported by the parents we would book a series of appointments and begin the process as soon as we can.

I can confidently say that if the youngster works with me, and has the ongoing support from their significant adults as their new found skills develop, they will begin feel better about themselves, happier healthier and more in control of their lives within a very short space of time

If you want to know more about the Thrive Programme for children please give me a call on 07747186670 or email me at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

 

 

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